In the movies, they like to show how the guy’s friend says that to him, but no, he’s determined to get her, and then he goes and turns it around and it’s amazing and him and this girl end up marrying and they spend the rest of their lives together in joyful, fairytale bliss.

That’s the movies. Real life is not like that… it’s way, way better.

In real life, you drop that girl you were obsessing over, go out, meet new girls, and end up with a lot of beautiful, awesome girlfriends. Maybe even one day one such beautiful, awesome girlfriend happens to come across a picture of that girl you used to obsess over, and offhandedly remarks, “Who’s that? She’s ugly.” Much better than sitting in the corner, moping and obsessing forever.

But, it is harder to do than keeping your fixation. It’s going to take some willpower, because at that point, you’re fighting obsession.

What happens when you’ve gotten this idea stuck in your head of That One Special Girl is that she becomes the only thing that will do. You have to have her. You can’t stop thinking about her, and no other girl is good enough, and no other girl measures up to her. She’s perfection personified.

And here’s the funny thing about the girl you’re obsessed with:

You never, ever do anything with her.

Isn’t that funny? You fantasize so much about how you’d like to:

• Talk to her
• Spend time with her
• Take her on a date
• Make love to her
• Take her on some romantic adventure
• Be with her all the time

… and yet you don’t do any of those things. You don’t even try, most of the time.

Why is that?